Alfie Kohn, a well known writer on issues of parenting, education, and human behavior, has pointed out that in most cases saying please is simply a meaningless ritual, an automatic trained response, and that the only reason to teach kids to say it is because others expect and will think you rude if you don’t. In other words, there is no intrinsic reason to say please. It doesn’t mean anything anymore.
Check out the rest of this post over at Emerging Parents. The author makes some interesting points, and there are some great comments as well.
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