Teaching our children to say “Please”

Alfie Kohn, a well known writer on issues of parenting, education, and human behavior, has pointed out that in most cases saying please is simply a meaningless ritual, an automatic trained response, and that the only reason to teach kids to say it is because others expect and will think you rude if you don’t. In other words, there is no intrinsic reason to say please. It doesn’t mean anything anymore.

Check out the rest of this post over at Emerging Parents. The author makes some interesting points, and there are some great comments as well.

What do you think? Check it out, and leave a comment if you have any thoughts.

One thought on “Teaching our children to say “Please”

  1. I had to read the complete post because this quote annoyed me. Please is all about respect. Which I think is brought out in the full post; however, I think it is still to heavily weighted to respect of an equal versus respect of elders/parents/teachers/people in position of authority. Respect is critical and it is so hard to teach – even worse it is quickly disappearing from our American culture. Respect is clearly outlined in both the old testament and new testament.
    “Honor thy Father and Mother” (OT).
    “Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. 2Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.” (NT)

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